“Just because you lost me as a friend, doesn’t mean you gained me as an enemy. I’m bigger than that. I still wanna see you eat, just not at my table.”
– Tupac Shakur.
This is something I have learned and do practice.
“You claim to be a Christian but you hate me.”
No, dear. Hate is such a strong, negative, life-sapping emotion that I’d love to think I’m incapable of feeling.
I’m not a hater.
Sometimes, the people you call haters are simply tired of your nonsense. They don’t hate you; they just realise that you’re only good in small doses and they treat you accordingly.
They don’t have to remain friends with you, especially after you’ve wronged them time and again. Yes, even after you’ve said, “I’m sorry” for the umpteenth time.
“We used to be close but you’ve changed.”
No, my darling.
I realised that there’s a line you’ve firmly placed in our relationship and I’m determined not to cross it. I’m perfectly okay on the other side. Anything other than that would be me being constantly hurt and chopping all manner of rubbish. Trust me, I don’t want to be resentful and full of complaints.
I love you.
I will cheer you on, pray for you and still not want you in my inner circle. I assure you, despite my absence, your life will go on beautifully.